Thursday, September 19, 2013

Dealing with Anger - When You Say the Wrong Thing

Not the fastest horse can catch a word spoken in anger. ~Chinese Proverb

One of the hardest things to do when dealing with anger is controlling our tongue.  We may be overcome with emotion and say something hurtful, damaging and/or inappropriate.  When we calm down, we often feel some regret and wish we could take back our words.  

Although we are not able to go back and change what we said, we can take some positive steps in dealing with anger.  First, we can take responsibility for our actions.  It may be humbling to apologize, but simply saying "I'm sorry" or "I shouldn't have said what I did" can bring healing and restoration to the situation and relationships that may have been affected.  We also can and must forgive ourselves and accept that we are only human and imperfect.  Finally, we can learn some healthy coping skills for dealing with anger that can help us throughout our lives. 

We have two choices when it comes to dealing with anger in our lives: We either learn to control it or it will control us.  Anger is not something we can avoid or ignore. Whether it is our own anger or someone else’s, much of our days are spent dealing with anger and its consequences.

For anger management techniques and tools in how to control anger, check out:  Anger Management: What You Need to Know When Dealing with Anger.   You will be empowered to take control of your life and guided along a path to freedom, inner peace, true strength, greater self-control and confidence, and a new outlook.

Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. ~Ambrose Bierce

Never write a letter while you are angry. ~Chinese proverb

An angry man opens his mouth and shuts up his eyes. ~Cato

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1 comment:

  1. Well written tips, very accurate, to the point and easy to digest — exactly what constitutes a “strong blog”.