You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving. ~unknown
The heart of the giver makes the gift dear and precious. ~ Martin Luther
Does your partner feel loved by you? Do your children believe you love them? How about you, do you feel loved? If you are not speaking the same language with your partner, children, or others, then sincere feelings and true love can be easily missed! That is because love and affection can be demonstrated in many different ways. To some, words that affirm feelings and beliefs most strongly convey love. To others, physical symbols such as gifts speak loudest.
According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are 5 fundamental languages of love (Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Physical Touch and Gifts). We all have a primary love language--one that makes us feel loved more than any other.
Following is Part Two of the 5 love languages. Which language speaks to your heart the most? How about your partner, children, friends? We often communicate our own primary love language to others and hope they will understand the love and affection we are trying to communicate. For example, if my love language is words of affirmation and yours is quality time, you might not feel loved no matter what words I say to you if you do not feel I am spending enough time with you.
Even if we are communicating our affection with all of our heart, and it is not in the language that our partner can understand, he or she may not feel loved. If we will learn to speak one another's love language in the way that we can understand, we will experience the love we need from one another.
Love Language 4: Gifts
This love language is a physical symbol that your partner is thinking about you.
A gift doesn't have to be expensive or fancy. It can be anything that reminds your partner that you are thinking about him/her.
For information about Dr. Chapman's book: The 5 Love Languages, click here.
It isn't the size of the gift that matters, but the size of the heart that gives it. ~Eileen Elias Freeman
May no gift be too small to give, nor too simple to receive, which is wrapped in thoughtfulness, and tied with love. ~ L.O. Baird
A wise lover values not so much the gift of the lover as the love of the giver. ~Thomas á Kempis
The paradox of gifts: I know what I have given you. I do not know what you have received. ~Dr. SunWolf
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