All sorts of things can trigger irritability in people, from minor traffic jams to major headaches. Everyone gets upset or annoyed sometimes. We all have lost our temper and reacted without thinking. We have succumbed to anger that drives us to say and do things we normally would not. And it is when we lose control over our thoughts and feelings, that our irritability and anger can do some major damage to our love walk.
For the most part, irritability is likely to occur when we feel under pressure. Therefore, one of the best tests for measuring our irritability is to observe how we behave when having to manage stressful circumstances or people. If we can remain graceful toward others when under pressure, then we are probably exercising self-control. Our temper is well-managed and good. We are not allowing agitation to anger us or disrupt our relationships. If, on the other hand, pressure and stress bring out the worst in us, then we probably need to work on our self-control and temper.
When irritable, we are very likely to become easily angered at others, sometimes at the slightest provocation. We might even become hostile and behave in ways we will later regret. Gaining control over our thoughts, feelings and actions when irritated and angry is the best way to keep from acting out in unloving ways.
Self-control communicates love. It can be seen whenever we:
* Take responsibility for our actions
* Do not accuse or blame others for the way we feel
* Treat others graciously although they irritate us
* Keep from saying something hurtful and unnecessary
* Do not take our anger out on those around us
* Think things through before we react
* Allow ourselves a time-out to gather ourselves together
* Do not expect more from others than we should
The disposition of love is self-control and a good temper. Having self-control and a good temper is easier said than done, especially for those individuals who are more prone to irritability for various reasons. Even so, we can all learn to gain greater control over our tempers and how we react under pressure. Irritations will never cease, nor does our love need to when they come.
Anger management classes and/or individual anger counseling can be extremely supportive and helpful in equipping us with many tools for a better life.
We boil at different degrees. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
There was never an angry man that thought his anger unjust. ~St. Francis De Sales
An angry man opens his mouth and shuts up his eyes. ~Cato
The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it. ~Arnold H. Glasgow
The greatest remedy for anger is delay. ~Seneca
If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow. ~Chinese Proverb
A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare. ~Proverbs 15:1
C2007 Krystal Kuehn, NewDayCounseling.org
Anger Management and Self-Control
Taken from The 10 Keys to Successful and Loving Relationships by Krystal Kuehn.
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Anger is a powerful emotion that can affect the happiness of any relationship. Excessive anger is one of the major reasons for constant disputes, abuse and separation of many relationships.
ReplyDeletePatience is really hard when your really irritated and annoyed, anger can easily be triggered because of this things, stress also is one contributor of these. Anger management is really good in facing relationship problems.
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