What is Your Love Language? Part 3 of 5

Don't say you love me unless you really mean it, because I might do something crazy like believe it.  ~Anonymous

If you love someone tell them... because hearts are often broken by words left unspoken. ~Pamela Daranjo

What is Your Love Language?

Does your partner feel loved by you? Do your children believe you love them? How about you, do you feel loved? If you are not speaking the same language with your partner, children, or others, then sincere feelings and true love can be easily missed! That is because love and affection can be demonstrated in many different ways. To some, words that affirm feelings and beliefs most strongly convey love. To others, physical symbols such as gifts speak loudest.

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are 5 fundamental languages of love (Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Physical Touch and Gifts). We all have a primary love language--one that makes us feel loved more than any other.

Following is Part Three of the 5 love languages. Which language speaks to your heart the most? How about your partner, children, friends? We often communicate our own primary love language to others and hope they will understand the love and affection we are trying to communicate. For example, if my love language is words of affirmation and yours is quality time, you might not feel loved no matter what words I say to you if you do not feel I am spending enough time with you.

Even if we are communicating our affection with all of our heart, and it is not in the language that our partner can understand, he or she may not feel loved. If we will learn to speak one another's love language in the way that we can understand, we will experience the love we need from one another.

Love Language 3:  Words of Affirmation

This love language is about using words to affirm your love. 

Examples include: 
I love you
I really appreciate....
You are so beautiful/you're really hot
You did a nice job
You come up with great ideas
What I love about you is...

For information about Dr. Chapman's book: The 5 Love Languages, click here.

Words so innocent and powerless… when standing in a dictionary, how potent for good or evil they become in the hands of one who knows how to combine them. ~Nathaniel Hawthorne

Perhaps you will never forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them for a lifetime. ~Dale Carnegie

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are endless. ~Mother Theresa

Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.

~Proverbs 16:24

Watch your manner of speech if you want to develop a peaceful state of mind. Start each day by affirming peaceful, contented and happy attitudes and your days will tend to be pleasant and successful. ~Norman Vincent Peale

International Best Seller: The 10 Keys to Happy and Loving Relationships provides essential tools to help you understand relationships and how to make them more fulfilling, harmonious and successful. You will be taken on a personal journey to discover how you communicate the 10 key attributes of love as you relate to others. You will be empowered with tools to replace unhealthy patterns with new, healthy and effective ways to communicate, connect and love others. And you will discover how to communicate and experience genuine love and true happiness in ways that will change you, your relationships and your life forever!

Click here to see inside the book.


New Day Counseling is a family couples counseling center that provides professional counseling services for the entire family. We help parents, children, teens, families, individuals and couples. We offer couples therapy / marriage counseling, child therapy, adolescent counseling, anxiety counseling, depression counseling, divorce counseling, grief counseling, porn addiction counseling, substance abuse counseling. We also offer groups for anger counseling. Go to NewDayCounseling.org today for more information or call us at 248-649-8050. We are here to help, and we look forward to hearing from you.


Put an end to anger problems & regain control over your life today. Anger management classes help for personal, court, and business. For more info go to newdaycounseling.org or call 248-649-8050 to register today. * Anger management classes and/or individual anger counseling can be extremely supportive and helpful in equipping us with many tools for a better life.

<<< Back to Be Your Best Blog Home

The Power of Choice

Every day we make countless choices.  We may be tempted to quit, and we must choose if we will persevere.  We may want to cry because of a mistake we have made, but we can choose to laugh at ourselves instead.  We can allow our anger to become bitter and hateful, or we can choose to release it and let love work in and through us.  Excuses can be made for why we procrastinate, or we can choose to take responsibility and action.  The words we say and the things we do don't just happen.  We choose the words we speak.  We choose our attitudes. And we choose our actions and behaviors.  That is a pretty big responsibility.  No one besides us is responsible for our choices.  Sure, they may influence them, but ultimately our choices are up to us.  

What a privilege, what a freedom we have! Within our power is the ability to make choices that can change our lives and destinies.  Within our power is the ability to make choices that can positively or negatively influence others and our world.  Within our power is the ability choose what can bring life instead of death to dreams, hopes, and visions.  Our choices have lasting impact on us, others, and our world. May we take this remarkable privilege seriously and use it for good every day of our lives!!

USE WISELY YOUR POWER OF CHOICE

Choose to love rather than hate.

Choose to laugh rather than cry.

Choose to create rather than destroy.

Choose to persevere rather than quit.

Choose to praise rather than gossip.

Choose to heal rather than wound.

Choose to give rather than steal.

Choose to act rather than procrastinate.

Choose to grow rather than rot.

Choose to pray rather than curse.

Choose to live rather than die.

           ~Og Mandino


There may be a thousand little choices in a day. All of them count.  * You may think that in life, a lot of things happen to you along the way. The truth is, in life, you happen to a lot of things along the way. * Choosing to live your life by your own choice is the greatest freedom you will ever have.  ~Shad Helmstetter

Destiny is not a matter of chance. It is a matter of choice: it is not to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved. ~William Jennings Bryant

We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them. ~Kahlil Gibran


Every morning when I get up, the first thing I decide is:  What do I want?  Misery? Blisfullness?   What am I going to choose today?  And it happens that I always choose blissfulness.  It is my choice, it is my life.  ~Adullah

Life's not about expecting, hoping and wishing, it's about doing, being and becoming.  It's about the choices you've just made, and the ones you're about to make, it's about the things you choose to say - today.  It's about what you're gonna do after you finish reading this. ~Mike Dooley

This bright, new day... complete with 24 hours of opportunities, choices, and attitudes… a perfectly matched set of 1440 minutes.This unique gift, this one day, cannot be exchanged, replaced or refunded. Handle with care. Make the most of it. There is only one to a customer. ~Author Unknown


Copyright © 2011 Krystal Kuehn, New Day Counseling Center. All Rights Reserved.




Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC is a licensed professional counselor, author, teacher, and musician. She specializes in helping people live their best life now, reach their full potential, overcome barriers, heal from their past, and develop a lifestyle of health, happiness, and love. Krystal is the cofounder of NewDayCounseling.org, a relationship counseling, family counseling center, specializing in helping individuals, couples and families with professional counseling services for relationship problems, parenting issues, depression, anxiety as well a s substance abuse classes, anger management groups, and more. Krystal is also cofounder of StopSuicideSong.com and BeHappy4Life.com as well as Facebook.com/WordsOfInspiration and several blogs.



New Day Counseling is a family couples counseling center that provides professional counseling services for the entire family. We help parents, children, teens, families, individuals and couples. We offer relationship counseling, couples counseling / marriage therapy, child therapy, adolescent counseling, anxiety counseling, depression counseling, divorce counseling, grief counseling, porn addiction counseling, substance abuse counseling. We also offer groups for anger counseling. Go to NewDayCounseling.org today for more information or call us at 248-649-8050. We are here to help, and we look forward to hearing from you.

Love and Logic Parenting Classes help you with the most important job there is! You can learn practical tools & techniques for effective discipline, better communication, appropriate boundaries, healthy decision-making, & respectful adult-child relationships. Workshops are available at New Day Counseling in Troy. For more information or to register online go to: Love and Logic Parenting Class or call 248-649-8050.

Put an end to anger problems & regain control over your life today. Anger management classes help for personal, court, and business. For more info go to newdaycounseling.org or call 248-649-8050 to register today. * Anger management class and/or individual anger counseling can be extremely supportive and helpful in equipping us with many tools for a better life.

Are you experiencing addiction or substance use that is impacting your daily life? You are not alone! There are many people struggling with substance abuse and addiction! There are also many people who recover and live a drug free lifestyle. Come join our 6 week substance abuse group to discover the pathway to freedom! One Day at A Time! For substance abuse group and/or individual substance abuse counseling, call or visit us today.


Learn to handle & stabilize your emotions, lessen depression, and improve your relationships by learning coping skills, de-stressing techniques, and ways to change negative thought patterns with Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. Call 248-649-8050 to register for DBT Adult Anxiety & Depression Support Group today.

Self-Esteem Group for Teen Girls (ages 13-17)
Teen girls learn to feel empowered, gain self-awareness, develop positive coping, and improve daily problem-solving skills. Through G.I.R.L.S. (Girls in Real Life Situations) counseling curriculum, group discussion, and fun activities, girls will learn more about themselves and be better equipped to handle Real Life Situations. Call 248-649-8050 today to register. For more information, go to New Day Counseling Center. We also offer individual teenage counseling.


<< Back to Be Your Best Home

The Power of Words

Whatever we have in our hearts will determine the words we speak. If we fill our minds with good and positive thoughts, we will have good and positive things to say. If our minds are filled with unpleasant and negative thoughts, it will be evident in the negative way we talk.

With our words we bless and with our words we curse. For example, when parents tell their children that they can fulfill their potential and accomplish great things, they encourage their children’s faith and build their confidence as these words are believed and acted upon. On the other hand, those who continually hear that there is something wrong with them, they are never good enough, or they will never amount to much begin to believe those words and live them out. Often the greatest factor that accounts for the differences in many of our lives is the words we hear and believe.

Words are powerful. What we say can influence people’s lives in many ways—their attitude, mood, choices, self-esteem, and so forth. It is up to us to guard our speech from negativity, criticism, and judgment and instead speak words that encourage, edify, comfort, and strengthen.

Affirmation:
Today I can choose to fill my heart with goodness and speak words that bring life to others.


Empowering Thoughts:
Perhaps you will never forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them for a lifetime. ~Dale Carnegie

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are endless. ~Mother Theresa

Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones. ~Proverbs 16:24

Watch your manner of speech if you want to develop a peaceful state of mind. Start each day by affirming peaceful, contented and happy attitudes and your days will tend to be pleasant and successful. ~Norman Vincent Peale

Words so innocent and powerless… when standing in a dictionary, how potent for good or evil they become in the hands of one who knows how to combine them. ~Nathaniel Hawthorne







Copyright © 2010 Krystal Kuehn, New Day Family & Couples Counseling Center. All Rights Reserved.



Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC is a psychotherapist, author, teacher & musician. She is the cofounder of New Day Counseling, a family marriage counseling and child teen counseling center, BeHappy4Life.com, an award-winning, self-help and inspirational site where you can find hundreds of free resources, insights & words of inspiration to change your life, and Baby-Poems.com where you can find beautiful baby poems, baby quotes, cute sayings & baby videos that will touch your heart & increase your joy & gratitude for the children you love & enjoy! Check out Krystal's other blogs: Give Thanks Journal, Baby Poems & Words of Inspiration blog.


Back to Be Your Best Home









<< Back to Words of Inspiration Home