Thursday, April 11, 2013

How to Win in Life & Be Your Best


What is opportunity, and when does it knock? It never knocks. You can wait a whole lifetime, listening and hoping, and you will hear no knocking. None at all. You are opportunity, and you must knock on the door leading to your destiny. You prepare yourself to recognize opportunity, to pursue and seize opportunity as you develop the strength of your personality and build a self-image with which you are able to live. ~Maxwell Maltz



Sometimes people wait their entire lives for the right doors to open for them. They wait passively hoping and wishing something will change. Out of the blue, things will turn around for them. They are good people. They deserve it. Maybe they had some bad breaks, but some day good fortune might suddenly fall into their laps. They just might get lucky, but until then their choices and inaction keep them in a discontented place. They wish they could have the success that others have. They can only imagine how nice it must be to have the opportunities others have. Very rarely, however, do they consider the cost of hard work, strong faith, determination, and persistance.

Most people who are successful in life have paid their dues. I am talking about truly successful people, not those who have things handed to them and do very little with their opportunities. Although there is nothing wrong with someone getting a good break because of a connection, that person will only experience the rewards of success when validated for their own efforts, investment, and talent. Until then, they may not feel genuinely successful or thankful regardless of how they appear to others.  The rewards and self-confidence that come from growing, giving, and fulfilling your destiny can't be handed to you.  True fulfillment and joy come from taking opportunities to be your best and live with purpose.

The good news is that we do not have to wait for opportunity to knock. We can recognize opportunity, pursue it, and seize it. We can start knocking on doors right now. We can take steps to move forward, change, improve, and fulfill our destiny. We can develop and practice successful habits today!! What are you waiting for?

Empowering Thoughts & Words of Wisdom:

A wise man will make more opportunities than he finds. ~Francois Bacon

Opportunities? They are all around us. There is power lying latent everywhere waiting for the observant eye to discover it. ~Orison Swett Marden

It's the man who waits for his ship to come in who's always missing the boat. ~Anonymous

Many an opportunity is lost because a man is out looking for four-leaf clovers. ~Anonymous

The trouble with opportunity is that it always comes disguised as hard work. ~Anonymous

Everyone has a fair turn to be as great as he pleases. ~Jeremy Collier

Your big opportunity may be right where you are now. ~Napoleon Hill

Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. ~Lucius Annaeus Seneca

The best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up. —Paul Valery


Copyright 2011 All Rights Reserved. Written by Krystal Kuehn.
Co-founder of New Day Family Marriage Counseling & BeHappy4Life.com


Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC is a licensed professional counselor, international best-selling author, teacher, and musician. She specializes in helping people live their best life now, reach their full potential, overcome barriers, heal from their past, and develop a lifestyle of health, happiness, and love. Krystal is the cofounder of NewDayCounseling.org


New Day Counseling is a family counseling center that provides professional counseling services for the entire family. We help parents, children, teens, families, individuals and couples. We offer couples therapy / marriage counseling, child therapy, adolescent counseling, anxiety counseling, depression counseling, divorce counseling, grief counseling, porn addiction counseling, substance abuse counseling. We also offer groups for anger counseling. Go to NewDayCounseling.org today for more information or call us at 248-649-8050. We are here to help, and we look forward to hearing from you.

Put an end to anger problems & regain control over your life today. Anger management classes help for personal, court, and business. For more info go to newdaycounseling.org or call 248-649-8050 to register today. * Anger management classes and/or individual anger counseling can be extremely supportive and helpful in equipping us with many tools for a better life.


DUI? Drunk Driving? Probation? Substance Abuse Problems? DUI Outpatient Counseling, Substance Abuse Evaluation & Alcohol Assessment help for court, business and personal. For more info to go newdaycounseling.org click here: substance abuse counseling or call 248-649-8050 today!


Love and Logic Parenting Classes help you with the most important job there is! You can learn practical tools & techniques for effective discipline, better communication, appropriate boundaries, healthy decision-making, & respectful adult-child relationships. Workshops are available at New Day Counseling in Troy. For more information or to register online go to: Love and Logic Parenting Class or call 248-649-8050.
 
Trauma and Grief Support Group 
Survivors, family members and friends of sudden loss/emotional shock due to accident, loss of loved one, illness, or injury will gain healthy adapting, new perspective and emotional support and healing in this life-changing group led by survivor and professional psychotherapist, Brad Erlandson, MS, LLPC


Self-Esteem Group for Teen Girls (ages 13-17)
Teen girls learn to feel empowered, gain self-awareness, develop positive coping, and improve daily problem-solving skills. Through G.I.R.L.S. (Girls in Real Life Situations) counseling curriculum, group discussion, and fun activities, girls will learn more about themselves and be better equipped to handle Real Life Situations. Call 248-649-8050 today to register. For more information, click here. We also offer individual teenage counseling.

Online Therapy - Online Marriage Counseling / Online Couples Counseling
New Day Counseling offers professional counseling via Skype for clients who prefer to have counseling sessions in the comfort of their homes.


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Monday, April 1, 2013

Making Peace with Your Past & Finding Freedom



The day the child realizes that all adults are imperfect he becomes an adolescent; the day he forgives them, he becomes an adult; the day he forgives himself he becomes wise. ~Alden Nowlan

Are regrets, bad memories, or losses keeping you from enjoying each new day? Is the past keeping you from moving into the future with hope and anticipation?

I recently heard a man say that it was not until he made peace with his past that he truly began to live. It changed his life so drastically that everyone noticed there was something different about him. It was not until 20 years after losing his father that he began to grieve the loss for the first time. He finally allowed himself to face his past with all the anger and pain. There was so much that he missed out on. There were lost opportunities and things that would never be, so many regrets, poor choices, and bad experiences that would affect the rest of his life.

This man went through a process of acceptance and forgiveness. He felt the pain. He felt the anger. He mourned what was and could have been. And then, he released it. He made peace with his past, and he was ready to move on with his life. Suddenly, new opportunities before him became exciting. He began to fully appreciate what he had, the people in his life, and what he had become. He began to hope for a better and brighter future. He was ready to give more of himself to others. And he began to enjoy his life more and more.

For the first time since he could remember, he felt free—free of burdens from the past, free of unresolved pain, free of bitterness and self-pity. He was free indeed! He was free to enjoy his life, his family, and all that he had like never before. The past would no longer steal his joy and hope. It could not hold him back, and it was not going to keep him down any longer.

Is your past keeping you from fully enjoying your life? Sometimes we do not stop and think about it. Just like the man described above, we might have regrets, unresolved pain, sorrow, anger, or unforgiveness. These things keep us bound to the past. The past does not have to negatively influence our future. We can release it as we face it, deal with the emotions, come to accept what was and now is, and forgive our past.

Making peace with our past will lead us to experience healing, wholeness, and freedom to live our life with true joy. Every day is a new day to appreciate and enjoy. We do not have to allow our past to keep us from being truly happy today. Choose to be free and take the necessary steps to be free now. (We might want to have a professional counselor help us go through this process.)

Following are questions to reflect on and steps to take in making peace with our past:

1. Face your past. What are your regrets? What caused or still causes you pain? What are your losses? Have you grieved them?

2. Face your feelings. Does your past make you angry, sad, feel bad about yourself, bitter, damaged, cheated?

3. Forgive your past. Do you have any bitterness, hatred, or unforgiveness towards anyone (including yourself)? Why are you holding on to it? What would it take for you to release it and free yourself from its control in your life?

4. Accept your past. When we cannot change something, the healthiest thing we can do is accept it. Can you accept your past? What have you learned from it? How can it change you for the better?

5. Make peace with your past and be free. When your past no longer controls your life—your peace, your hope, attitude, relationships, ability to love others, give and share of yourself, dream, believe, and trust once again, then you are free!

It is my hope that this has helped you in making peace with your past, and in looking forward to better days ahead!

Krystal

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

He who spends time regretting the past, loses the present and risks the future. ~Quevedo

Regret is an appalling waste of energy --you can't build on it. It's only good for wallowing in. ~Katherine Mansfield

Your memory replays your past; your imagination replays your future. ~Mike Murdock


Copyright © 2007 Krystal Kuehn BeHappy4Life.com NewDayCounseling.org All Rights Reserved


Krystal Kuehn, MA, LPC, LLP, NCC is a licensed professional counselor, international best-selling author, teacher, and musician. She specializes in helping people live their best life now, reach their full potential, overcome barriers, heal from their past, and develop a lifestyle of health, happiness, and love. Krystal is the cofounder of NewDayCounseling.org

New Day Counseling is a family counseling center that provides professional counseling services for the entire family. We help parents, children, teens, families, individuals and couples. We offer couples therapy / marriage counseling, child therapy, adolescent counseling, anxiety counseling, depression counseling, divorce counseling, grief counseling, porn addiction counseling, substance abuse counseling. We also offer groups for anger counseling. Go to NewDayCounseling.org today for more information or call us at 248-649-8050. We are here to help, and we look forward to hearing from you.

Put an end to anger problems & regain control over your life today. Anger management classes help for personal, court, and business. For more info go to newdaycounseling.org or call 248-649-8050 to register today. * Anger management classes and/or individual anger counseling can be extremely supportive and helpful in equipping us with many tools for a better life.



DUI? Drunk Driving? Probation? Substance Abuse Problems? DUI Outpatient Counseling, Substance Abuse Evaluation & Alcohol Assessment help for court, business and personal. For more info to go newdaycounseling.org click here: substance abuse counseling or call 248-649-8050 today!



Love and Logic Parenting Classes help you with the most important job there is! You can learn practical tools & techniques for effective discipline, better communication, appropriate boundaries, healthy decision-making, & respectful adult-child relationships. Workshops are available at New Day Counseling in Troy. For more information or to register online go to: Love and Logic Parenting Class or call 248-649-8050.

Self-Esteem Group for Teen Girls (ages 13-17)
Teen girls learn to feel empowered, gain self-awareness, develop positive coping, and improve daily problem-solving skills. Through G.I.R.L.S. (Girls in Real Life Situations) counseling curriculum, group discussion, and fun activities, girls will learn more about themselves and be better equipped to handle Real Life Situations. Call 248-649-8050 today to register. For more information, click here. We also offer individual teenage counseling.


Helpful Resources:







God’s Promises in 8 Key Life Areas That Will Change Your Life








42 Simple Truths for a New Day: Live Each Day with a Winning Attitude







Anger Management: What You Need to Know When Dealing with Anger




Depression - Breaking Free From Its Grip






















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